With all of that in mind, I decided to reflect on love, and the pressures that are placed on students to have relationships while they are at university. I came into college with a lot of preconceived ideas, including the notion that I would immediately find my one and only one and stay in a relationship the majority of my time here. Dating your way through your college years may offer the opportunity to test drive your mate, and if the bond between you is strong enough for you. If you are curious about threesomes or other unconventional forms of intimacy, college is a great time to try it out safely.
Especially for students in LGBTQ+ communities, college can be a safe space to try out the idea of romantic love. Studies have shown that the self-esteem of college students may be adversely affected by hookup culture, and that students are oftentimes preferring to be in committed relationships. Most of us are afraid to romance, only to be left bitter and lonely at the end, which helps to explain why so many college students turn to hookups, one-night stands, and quick situational relationships in order to avoid consequences.
Many college students tend to realize that love is a constructive emotion and one they do not need to shut down in their lives. For people to say you should not embrace love when it comes your way, or you should avoid it at all costs, throughout your college career is not really honest. Yet, many students dealing with the tension of their social lives versus an isolated epidemic. An isolated epidemic finds them-self in the unique position of having never been more important to loving someone else.
When you are falling in love as a senior, ultimately, so many external factors are having an impact on the way you see that other person. In college, you are more focused on being the person you want to be, so you are not letting other people determine how you see yourself, the world, or others.
College is the time to find out who you are, to get experiences that ultimately will shape you into the person you are meant to be. They say that college is the best time of your life, and those fresh-eyed, new experiences are certainly the reason. I think everybody can agree that college is really a time for experimenting with life, be it drugs, alcohol, and even sex.
If you are spending all of your efforts trying to find love, or even maintaining relationships, during your time at university, it is going to have an adverse effect on your academic career. College, just like any relationship, will have highs and lows, but if you are committed to your experiences and to the people around you, you are unlikely to be one of these statistics that break up.
Yet, very few seniors voice concern about how love life in college could get worse, with the heavy workload often placing extreme stress on your ability to explore relationships. So, a few senior students from Delhi University till date shared their experiences with love and ideas that would guide you in your love life in college better. College is the first time for many students that they get an opportunity to explore the romantic, sexual, intimate, and deeper aspects of their individual identities.
While social climates are different at each school, love, sex, and dating (and questions about love) are a part of the college experience for many students, along with being challenged academically and learning new, amazing ways of thinking about the world. There are parties, games, undies runs, and tons of things to do with the people you love that make you laugh and take some pressure off of you that college sometimes puts.
I saw an article recently saying you should avoid finding love in college; it can keep you stuck and cause you to miss all kinds of things when you do find it. In the middle of a Valentines Day affected by digital-age trends and the quarantine pandemic, it is important to know that, although love is difficult in college, it is just as important.
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