In this opinion article, I discuss why one can be instantly attracted and emotionally attached to another individual on sight, and suggest how one might reciprocate that sentiment, and thereby, how first-sight love can happen between two individuals, provided that the recipient of that attraction shares similar attributes with that person. James Andrew Grant-Jacob in Love At First Sight (2016)[ii] suggests that since similar attributes are attractive, individuals may become emotionally attached to another individual at first sight. People are immediately capable of deciding whether or not they find someone attractive, and love at first sight cannot happen without first-sight attraction.
Remember, feelings of attraction and curiosity toward someone are different than love. Meeting the eye of the one special person and falling in love can be a little trickier. It is simply not necessarily true that an accidental meeting is an indication of true love between two people. Many feel this kind of loving coincidence does not occur in real life.
Some couples reported feeling such an attraction while looking at pictures of their others. In this study, outsiders were most likely to report experiencing love at first sight with someone who was physically attractive; indeed, one who was more highly rated in terms of attraction on the scale used by the researchers matched up to have nine times as much chance of another reporting that he or she had experienced love at first sight. Nearly 400 men and women were more likely to report falling instantly in love with physically attractive others. The surveys of prospective romantic partners included their agreeing with the statement, I am experiencing love at first sight with this person, and also reported how physically attractive they found this person, as well as the amount of passion (sexual attraction) they felt.
To claim that love can blossom so quickly between two people that just looking each others way is sufficient to create a loving bond is likely inaccurate. While it is true that people may feel immediately attracted to one another, some scientists have said that being in love means actually getting to know someone over time. Talking about that first meeting you had with your partner, and what both of you felt during that moment, actually makes you feel more connected and in love. At the same time, actual examples of an immediate pull that is so powerful that we call it love seem exceedingly rare.
The second is that it is been shown that the early minutes, not the early moments, of a relationship are more predictive of a relationships future success than things the two individuals have in common, or if they even like each other at all (love attracts love).
James Andrew Grant-Jacob, however, notes that the positive effects of a first impression may indeed offset the shallowness of attraction on the face of it, and initial positive feelings may be replaced by predictability and familiarity, which may lead to attraction lasting longer.
