Having sex outside the bedroom can be an exciting, spontaneous way to add a little pizzazz to your sex life. There are many places you can spend sexually charged time with your partner, so keeping it in just the bedroom is not the answer. Yes, sex is great and all, but so is having more intimate, physical connections with the person you truly love.
As uncomfortable as that sometimes feels (after all, it is not like every couple talks about that sort of stuff), just know that your partner wants to do whatever is necessary to make the time they have together feel good. Doing this will enable your partner to express what they need in order to feel loved, and will allow you to stay in tune with one anothers needs, leading to a sex life that is emotionally connected and fulfilling.
Okay, that is DEFINITELY a suggestion that you will have to discuss with your partner, but a lot of couples have found that opening up in relationships leads to a more fulfilling sex life. For partners who have a significant other who initiates sexual activity, knowing your significant other finds you desirable and wants to show you his or her appreciation through sexual, sensory ways can be incredibly reassuring. You can build up even more anticipation for having sex with your partner by having them pencil you into the calendar, and you will both be looking forward to this shared time together.
Scheduled intimate time with your partner can make sure that your sexual life is not neglected in times of stress. During your check-ins with your partner, you may even find some time to discuss your sex life.
While spontaneity can be thrilling, scheduling sex time is what many couples should be doing, making sure to prioritize the physical intimateness they have with one another. In long-term relationships, life is often hectic, and it can be strange going from doing dishes to making out with your partner when things are hectic. There comes a point in every relationship, regardless of how happy you all are, that the sexual component may dip – whether that is hormonal, stress-related, or just having been with the same partner so long that no pillow talk or date night is going to get you excited about getting intimate.
Make a deliberate effort to keep talking about sex in your relationship. Always be looking for innovative ways to get the juices flowing in your head and to make sex seem much more sexual.
You do not need to do all these things simultaneously, of course – just consider ways that you can tap into all your senses (and those of your partner) to elevate your sex life to a new level. Sure, you are not going to master all these positions (and, after all, who actually wants to stand on their heads while having sex), but trying a few, particularly these ones, might just be fun. Sex toys can liven things up, offering a new and different kind of stimulation, but they can also be used to prolong the sexual experience beyond the one partners orgasms (or, if one partner likes having more than one).
Sex Toys:
Just like porn – are novelties you and your partner can enjoy together, and studies have shown couples who use toys on each other tend to have higher levels of sexual satisfaction.
